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21 March 2016updated 02 Sep 2021 4:39pm

Female Friendship Week

Celebrating and examining friendships between women.

By Anna Leszkiewicz

Welcome to Female Friendship Week on the New Statesman website. Throughout the week, we’ll be celebrating and examining relationships between people who identify as women: on screen, throughout history, and in our own lives.

Like so many expectations of social behaviour, our ideas of friendship are deeply gendered. Friendships between women are seen more emotional, empathetic, intense (and, often, fraught) than their male counterparts.

Anecdotally, these ideas can have some grounding in truth. My own platonic relationships with women are frequently more consuming, difficult and fulfilling than my friendships with men.

But, of course, no one idea of female friendship can be a reality for women across the board, and any set of stereotypes surrounding women and friendship limits us.

Do our assumptions about the convoluted nature of teenage girls’ relationships stand up to scrutiny? Does our association of female friendship with intimacy contribute to the erasure of lesbian relationships? Do BFFs on TV make us insecure about our own, imperfect companionship?

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This week, a handful of individual women offer detailed portraits of their own friendships, and discuss these wider questions. We hope you enjoy their contributions.

Do BFFs on TV give women unrealistic expectations of friendship? By Emily Reynolds

Love, jealousy and fantasy worlds: Wolf Alice’s Ellie Rowsell on the friendship behind “Bros”

Eleanor Margolis on how the guise of friendship is used to erase lesbian relationships

From The Princess Diaries to Tangerine, Simran Hans on the best women’s friendships in film

“Sometimes, I hated you”: two friends recount memories of their relationship

“It was as if I had never existed”: Caroline Crampton on what happens when friends break up

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