Do mummy and daddy know best?

Ashley X, treatment and whether parents always make the right choices for their children

The recent headlines about ‘Ashley X’, the girl who was given hormones to prevent her growth, not to mention a hysterectomy, threw up the usual conflict between the medical establishment and its critics which arises in such cases.

However, I was struck by another opposition it reflected, one that is seldom discussed, and that is the one between disabled people and our parents. By this, I do not mean arguments within the family, although no doubt many took place in every type of household over Christmas, but rather between the distinct lobbying groups which represent each party but have rarely been acknowledged.

Disabled people have generally expressed opposition to the ‘treatment’, which has been condemned by the Disability Rights Commission and the charity, Scope, while there have been many messages of support on the website set up by Ashley’s parents, from people in similar situations.

Such differences of opinion seem obvious and yet are somehow elusive in most of the media reports. This is nothing new. When journalists deign to obtain the views of interest groups at all, they usually fail to specify which particular lobby is being represented. It is probably overly generous to say that they do not consider it important enough to mention. It is rather more likely that they are just unaware of the difference.

There are important consequences. For example, charities such as the National Autistic Society were founded by the parents of disabled children and often continue to reflect the views of these members in their press releases. The imaginative scares about vaccinations originate largely from parents, while most autistic people simply observe from a position somewhere between indifference and incredulity.

Nevertheless, there are also occasions in which the disability rights orthodoxy is overly harsh and the views of parents provide a useful corrective. When Ruth Kelly decided to send her seriously dyslexic son to a public school, rather than a local comprehensive, she could be accused of betraying her party’s principle of integration as well as that of a free state education. On the other hand, there is sometimes a bittersweet necessity to put your own child first and your politics second.

The reaction of David Cameron, whose son has cerebral palsy, was telling. Rather than play party politics, he decided to respect her choice, wisely keeping his own options open for the future. I find myself in the same boat.

As I grow older, fortunately not prevented by oestrogen from doing so, and I start to contemplate the possibility of one day having a family of my own, I gain more sympathy for parents of disabled children and the tough decisions that they face. After all, it is highly probable that my children will inherit some autistic traits and I do not yet want to rule out any possibilities for their education. It is sensible that groups representing disabled people and our parents should try to come to a mutual understanding. We agree on a large number of issues and, even where we do not, it is often assumed we do, so we can only benefit from knowing where the other stands.

But understanding only goes so far. However tough it is to be a carer, and however badly the state has failed to provide adequate support, it can never be justified to employ highly invasive procedures simply to make a child easier to carry. Now that Gordon Brown has revealed that his son has cystic fibrosis, we are soon likely to be in a situation in which the leaders of both main parties have disabled children. Unfortunately, I lack confidence that this will result in policies which will genuinely address the needs of disabled people.

As a child, I was very successful in my schoolwork but found it difficult to make friends. I went to Cambridge University but dropped out after a year due to severe depression and spent most of the next year in a therapeutic community, before returning to Cambridge to complete my degree. I first identified myself as autistic in 1999 while I was studying psychology in London but I was not officially diagnosed until 2004 because of a year travelling in Australia and a great deal of NHS bureaucracy. I spent four years working for the BBC as a question writer for the Weakest Link but I am now studying law with the intention of training to be a solicitor. My hobbies include online poker and korfball, and I will be running the London Marathon in 2007. I now have many friends and I am rarely depressed but I remain single.
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Tony Blair won't endorse the Labour leader - Jeremy Corbyn's fans are celebrating

The thrice-elected Prime Minister is no fan of the new Labour leader. 

Labour heavyweights usually support each other - at least in public. But the former Prime Minister Tony Blair couldn't bring himself to do so when asked on Sky News.

He dodged the question of whether the current Labour leader was the best person to lead the country, instead urging voters not to give Theresa May a "blank cheque". 

If this seems shocking, it's worth remembering that Corbyn refused to say whether he would pick "Trotskyism or Blairism" during the Labour leadership campaign. Corbyn was after all behind the Stop the War Coalition, which opposed Blair's decision to join the invasion of Iraq. 

For some Corbyn supporters, it seems that there couldn't be a greater boon than the thrice-elected PM witholding his endorsement in a critical general election. 

Julia Rampen is the digital news editor of the New Statesman (previously editor of The Staggers, The New Statesman's online rolling politics blog). She has also been deputy editor at Mirror Money Online and has worked as a financial journalist for several trade magazines. 

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