Politics 12 March 2013 Lez Miserable: "I'm more Byron Burger than Lord Byron. Is that why I can't get a date?" Meet our new columnist, Eleanor Margolis, as she takes a frank, funny and cynical tour through life as a twentysomething lesbian. In her second piece, she describes what it's like to fancy women who wouldn’t give you the time of day on their ironic 80s Ca Sign up for our weekly email * Print HTML A bunch of us are round at The Austrian’s, drinking wine. As usual, I’m being boring about my bad luck with women. The Austrian is having none of this: “Try harder,” she commands. The others agree. They set me a challenge for the next time we go out: if I say some words to a real life attractive female, they’ll buy my drinks for the rest of the night. It strikes me that even my best buds have no faith in me. I don’t have to take this hypothetical woman home, I just have to do some talking with her. That is my insurmountable task. But some lesbians have this really specific way of being aloof. Let me paint you a picture: Nikki is 25. She’s skinny, gamine and lovely, with a Mia Farrow circa ’68 haircut. She enjoys cups of tea and riding her bike through the ‘queer poetry’ section of bookshops in Hackney. She DJs at a club night called ‘Minge Attack’. She once knitted an entire house and lived in it for a month as an art project. She claims never to have bought a chain store item of clothing in her whole life, although every time she goes into Urban Outfitters on Commercial Street, the staff wave at her. Yes, I know she’s pretentious, but I still kind of fancy her. Yet, if she existed, Nikki wouldn’t give me the time of day on her ironic 80s Casio watch. I’m stubby and veering towards moustache-y. And if I took penicillin, I might die. I run into a lot of Nikkis on the hip ‘n’ happening East London queer scene. They ignore me because I use phrases like “hip ‘n’ happening”. So it goes. Then again, it’s not like I’ve ever made a real effort to talk to a Nikki. I’m no chatter- upper of women. I’m more Byron Burger than Lord Byron. More of a “watch nervously from a distance” kinda gal. My face even has this special shade of red reserved purely for when a woman catches me checking her out. I call it “Just Go Home And Have A Sad, Quiet Wank Vermillion”. Weirdly, this was rejected by Crayola when I suggested it to them as a new shade. So, the night out arrives. We’re going to Club Lesley, a lesbian club night at the tit-achingly cool Dalston Superstore. I put on some Prince and apply red lipstick like war paint. As we walk into the Superstore, I’m confronted by what looks like a swarm of American Apparel models. I already feel like the complimentary bag of salad that comes with a take-away curry. And then I clock her, over in the heaving crowd around the bar – it’s Nikki. I find myself veering towards her, leaving my friends behind, looking tense. My feet are moving, while my brain is sending out distress signals: “What do you think you’re doing, you sad, hairy twit? Do not attempt to engage.” My feet have other plans and suddenly I’m next to her. I know it’s creepy, but I can’t help noticing how nice she smells – like pencil shavings and CK One. It’s uncanny – she ticks every single Nikki box: the pixie haircut, the Urban Outfitters shirt, the aura of someone who may have once knitted a house. I’ve accepted that my brain isn’t on my side, so I do what I’ve never done before - I listen to my vagina. “Packed tonight, eh!” I announce, over a remix of some early 00s R&B hit. She glances over at me. My God, she has pretty eyes. “Uh-huh!” she replies. We’re both having to shout over the music. “Ahh, gotta love this song!” I say, while my brain says, “You have absolutely no idea what this song is, you complete and utter wanker.” “Mmmm. I prefer their earlier stuff, to be honest!” “Oh yeah, classic!” I reply, while my brain is now screaming the word “arsehat” at me repeatedly. I spend the next few minutes staring at my feet, while waiting to be served. I order a gin and tonic and flee. Flustered, I return to my friends. “There. I did it. I spoke to someone.” “Yah, and then you ran off like a pussy,” says The Austrian. I’m not even going to bother fighting her on this one. Technically, I’m owed a night’s supply of drinks, but I know I don’t deserve them. I spend the rest of the evening dancing limply, while keeping one eye on Nikki and frantically thinking up reasons why I hate her. “Look at her over there with her eyes, and her shoes, and her possible cool job in the media. I loathe her.” At around two in the morning, I realise that my face hurts from frowning so much. All I want to do is lie in bed, eating a kebab and crying. I head off, leaving the others to enjoy the rest of the night. The next day, I meet The Austrian for a hung-over brunch. “You know,” she says, “Zat girl you spoke to last night – she liked you.” I nearly choke on my eggs Benedict. “What the..? How? No she didn’t.” “Yeah, we got talking to her and her friends later on. You know what she said about you.” “Oh God, what?” “Your mate is cute. Kind of aloof though.” Eleanor Margolis is a freelance journalist, whose column "Lez Miserable" will appear weekly on the New Statesman website. She tweets @eleanormargolis › Why is Douglas Murray smearing me to distract from this damning UN report on Israel in Gaza? Legs. All the legs. Photo: Getty Eleanor Margolis is a freelance journalist, whose "Lez Miserable" column appears weekly on the New Statesman website. Subscribe from just £1 per issue More Related articles What the "critical" UK terrorist threat level means Manchester united: "A minority of absolute idiots are trying to break us apart" Theresa May raises UK terrorist threat level to "critical"