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Meet the pop star who wants to show you that consent is sexy

“I say yes if I want to.”

If you’re familiar with Speedy Oritz, the band whose 2015 album Foil Deer made waves in alternative music circles, then you’ll already know a little about their lead singer, Sadie Dupuis. Dupuis is now striding out on her own, under the name Sad13, with a more bubblegum sound. She debuted her first solo single, “Get a Yes”, from the upcoming album Slugger, on NPR this week.

“Get a Yes” explores the idea of receiving enthusiastic consent before each sexual activity. She told NPR:

How many kids learn about sex from pop music? And how many fun-sounding pop musicians do a heinous job as sex-ed teachers? Like “Genie In A Bottle”, which characterizes sex as an internal conflict between the mind and the body — rather than something you should only do when the minds and bodies of all parties involved are synchronized? Or “Blurred Lines” in which the narrator presumes to know what his partner wants?

Instead, “Get a Yes” demonstrates how consent is sexy:

You can only get to that affirmative yes through a lot of dialoguing, and I think that process should be viewed as fun, sexy and not at all daunting. So I wanted to make a pop song that explores the excitement inherent in getting and giving consent.

As Dupuis sings in the chorus,

I say yes to the dress when I put it on
I say yes if I want you to take it off
I say yes for your touch when I need your touch
I say yes if I want to
If you want to, you’ve gotta get a yes
Can I get a yes?

Listen to the song below.

Anna Leszkiewicz is a pop culture writer at the New Statesman.