Does God Hate Women?

By Ophelia Benson and Jeremy Stangroom

Authors Benson and Stangroom dismantle the logic of those who cite religion to justify the perpetuat

After all the arguments for subordinating women have been shown to be self-serving lies, what are misogynists left with? They have only one feeble argument that is still deferred to and shown undeserving respect across the world, even by people who should know better: “God told me to. I have to treat women as lesser beings, because it is inscribed in my Holy Book.”

Ophelia Benson and Jeremy Stangroom are the editors of Butterflies and Wheels, the best atheist site on the web. In Does God Hate Women? they forensically dismantle the last respectable misogyny. They argue: “What would otherwise look like stark bullying is very often made respectable and holy by a putative religious law or aphorism or scriptural quotation . . . They worship a God who is a male who gangs up with other males against women. They worship a thug.”

Every major religion’s texts were written at a time when women were regarded as little better than talking cattle. Their words and commands reflect this, plainly and bluntly. This book starts with a panoramic sweep across the world, showing – with archetypal cases – how every religion has groups today thumping women down with its Holy Book.

In Zamfara State in northern Nigeria, a pregnant 13-year-old girl called Bariya Ibrahim received 180 lashes of the cane in 2001 after being pimped by her father. The state’s attorney general said: “It is the law of Allah, so we don’t have anything to worry about.” In Jerusalem, ultra-Orthodox Jews have set up “modesty police” who terrorise young women who talk to men or show ordinary parts of their bodies. They break into their homes if they are seen with men; they force them to sit at the back of the bus, away from the men; and they even, in one recent instance, sprayed acid in the face of a 14-year-old girl.

In the areas of India still dominated by orthodox Hinduism, a widow is still expected to commit suicide when her husband dies, or go into isolation in an ashram. One – a septuagenarian woman named Radha Rani Biswas – fled and now begs on the streets of Vrindavan. She said: “My son tells me: ‘You have grown old. Now who is going to feed you? Go away.’ What do I do? My pain has no limit.” And on the directory of divine misogyny goes, running through Catholicism, Mormonism and more. Benson and Stangroom note: “Religion doesn’t necessarily originate ideas about female subordination, but it lends them a penumbra of righteousness, and it makes them ‘sacred’ and thus a matter for outrage if anyone disputes them.”

Methodically, they go through the excuses offered for these raw abuses of human rights by the religious, and their apologists.

The first – especially beloved of the Vatican and Islamists – is that women are not being treated worse, just “differently”. They claim that it accords a woman special “dignity” to trap her in the home. But this is an abuse of language. As the authors note: “Permanent consignment to a limited and lesser role in the world is not what ‘dignity’ is generally understood to mean . . . The smallness and intimacy and relatedness of home are fine things, but not if one is confined to them permanently.”

The religio-misogynists then claim that it is “racist” or “imperialist” to oppose such abuses. This merrily ignores how women within these cultures protest against their treatment – very loudly. They aren’t objecting to being imprisoned in their homes, or having their genitalia cut, or being stoned for having sex, because a white person told them to. Benson and Stangroom put it well: “Multiculturalism by definition makes a fetish of cultures, and it is almost impossible to do that without treating them as monolithic. As soon as you admit that all cultures have internal dissent and nonconformity, the whole idea of protecting or deferring to particular cultures breaks down into incoherence.”

Then the gentler, nicer apologists for religion arrive. They say that misogynists are simply misinterpreting the holy texts, which are in fact about love and compassion and kindness. But the authors point out this is certainly not the God of the texts who orders his followers to commit mass murder, including of women and children, and explicitly says women are inferior beings.

So, in order to defend their God, the apologists often have to lie about what He and His Prophets “say” in the texts. Cherie Blair, for example, claimed in a lecture: “It is not laid down in the Quran that women can be beaten by their husbands.” But it quite plainly is. The Quran says: “If you fear high-handedness from your wives, remind them [of the teachings of God], then ignore them when you go to bed, then hit them.”

Karen Armstrong – one of the most egregious defenders of superstition – repeatedly claims that Muhammad was an emancipator of women. Yet it is explained in the Hadith (the sayings and traditions of the Prophet) that he married a prepubescent child, and that when he was given two slave girls he gave the ugly one away to a friend and kept the beautiful one, Maryam, to use sexually. It is a strange model of female emancipation, to sleep with children and slaves.

There are people in all religions who have – through theological contortions – managed to leave behind literal readings of the text and invent a less foul God to believe in. It is not for atheists to say that one group of believers is right and the other is wrong, as we think they’re all wrong. We can note that the less literalist a believer is, the easier he is to live beside, but we will only discredit literalism and force reform if we are honest about the words of the texts, rather than trying to soft-soap believers.

By the end of this book-length blast, Benson and Stangroom have left religious hatred of women in rubble. Anybody not addled by superstition will have to conclude that such bigotry deserves neither respect nor deference. It does not deserve the taboos that today surround it. It deserves the opposite: contempt – and relentless, unyielding opposition.

Does God Hate Women?
Ophelia Benson and Jeremy Stangroom
Continuum, 208pp, £14.99

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44 comments

lincolndavid's picture

All eastern based religions have always treated women poorly. Muslim, Hinduism, Judaism, and Christianity. Yes Christianity, even now in this modern age, women are not alowed to be priests, because religous law says that they are lesser beings. There is a better path, the religions of the west. The Druidic religions veiwed women as equal in every aspect. Women were wariors, cheiftans, polititians, priests, and teachers. Women were the heads of their housholds. Women were the keepers of royal title and lineage. Druidic society held that a person's lineage could be passed from their mother. That is because the mother was a child's only definate parent.

babywhale's picture

The very title of this article is intellectually flawed.

Religion many indeed be the last refuge of misogynistic abuse, just as the roman catholic church has been for pedophile and other abuses for all the centuries since its very inception. Yet knowing religion to be false, a humanly created theological illusion is not licence to indict God, only religion as having nothing to do with such a reality.

This is the error and dishonesty that atheists so easily fall into. Having rightly condemned what is no more then the institutional, intellectual prejudices which describe religious ideas, they can do or offer no more then create their own collection of counter prejudices. The intellectual fashion of our time. But fashion is very short lived.

So while misogyny makes its last stand within various religious forms, those very forms are now under threat as are the counter assumptions, founded upon and equally empty set of prejudices and called atheism.

However unexpected or seemingly implausible, for the first time in history, a new religious tenet exists and is spreading on the web, offering access by faith, to absolute proof for its belief. And this is going to blow both religious tradition, misogyny and atheism right out of the water.

saracobra's picture

as a woman i am outrage about this we are not cattle or second class citizens. and we need to speak up for the women who dont or cant have a voice. this is not right. this shouldnt be going on in the 21 century. it should of never gone on. we are the same as men. and should be treated the same. aimee

Santiago Nacquarrie's picture

No doubt Johann is right. Misogyny is an abomination. But there is a small problem: can
communities in which women enjoy equal rights survive for long unless they agree to to the trouble and
expense of giving birth to and raising enough children? Recent experience suggests that they can't.
If this is so, the scum who mistreat women will inherit the earth. Santiago Macquarrie

Jerzyk's picture

This isn't really about religion...

Modern religions ARE misogynist, there is little reason to doubt that. After all, religion is just another way of imposing man-made order on the universe and in the case of modern monotheism this also means the objectification of women. The question we should be asking isn't " Does God hate women ?" but rather "Should women be objectified?" I for one think that they should.

History is full of examples showing the unequivocal treachery and utter pragmatism with which the world ( including men, of course) is treated by Women. Mostly that behaviour is classified as reaction to the patriarchy, but how much credit can we give that claim? I assert (along with Betty Friedan in 'The feminine mystique') that women don't really need or want equal treatment (and this also means equal treatment under the law, custom, religion, at the bank teller line) when they've already managed to hold a privileged position through the exercise of usual female passive-aggressive manipulation.

There are at least two of life's greatest jokes here ( excluding the author, I know I'm a joke).
The first is the peter-pull-simple assertion that women would want equality when they already hold the superior position

The second is that intelligent as some feminist have been, they are too dumb to see that they are working against the better interest of their gender.

This is the conclusion Betty Friedan came to; I can ony agree.

mortysmith's picture

Hari behaves as if it is somehow splitting hairs to make a distinction between religion and what people have done in its name. Obviously, this is not the case.

Perhaps he is too young to remember the flying pickets during the miners' strike who dropped a breezeblock onto a taxi that was taking two miners to work, killing the driver. Presumably they would say that left-wing politics inspired their action. Does Hari blindly accept this, and conclude that left wing politics is barbaric, or does he take their claim to be acting on left wing principles with a pinch of salt?

For that matter, do the monstrous crimes of Stalin, Mao, the Khmer Rouge, the Kims of North Korea etc put Hari off left wing politics? Or does he make a distinction between true left wing principles and barbaric acts justfied in its name?

alexjohnc3's picture

"But the authors point out this is certainly not the God of the texts who orders his followers to commit mass murder, including of women and children,"

I loved this article right up until here. How DARE you suggest that murdering males is a lesser crime than murdering women or children? You're just as guilty of sexism as the Muslims you condemn. Congratulations.

Anan Sudanomos's picture

From one unbeliever to another: the belligerent atheist routine is incredibly tiresome and juvenile.

You say:

"There are people in all religions who have – through theological contortions – managed to leave behind literal
readings of the text and invent a less foul God to believe in. It is not for atheists to say that one group of believers is
right and the other is wrong, as we think they’re all wrong."

I would have thought that the rejection of misogynistic beliefs and practices to be an unqualified good no matter
what the particular theological provenance. Probe your conscience and ask yourself what truly troubles you more: 1)
That women everywhere be treated with proper respect and dignity? or 2) That the widespread growth of a liberal
theology of the sort advocated by your "apologists" might somehow deprive you of a favored argument to be wielded
against the believer like a club?

We unbelievers should be concerned humanists first and atheists second.

commoncents's picture

I don’t believe G-d hates women. In the beginning Adam was created in the feminine. Eve was the masculine. It is still that way. All fetus’ are created feminine. The “good book” was translated with the roles reversed.

Men, thousands of years ago, changed the genders in the Bible to try and take that power away from women. Men have no internal power and they must kill other men and have war to get the power and the riches they seek. It has always been that way.

Women still posess the power that G-d gave them at the beginning. It isn’t G-d who hates women. It’s men who hate women.

mbraaheidner's picture

Fear Based Marketing Dates Back Five Thousand Years!

Why would anyone subscribe to a religion that, instead of relying on its merits for recruiting followers, relies on the threat of burning in hell for eternity?

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