Does God Hate Women?

By Ophelia Benson and Jeremy Stangroom

Authors Benson and Stangroom dismantle the logic of those who cite religion to justify the perpetuat

After all the arguments for subordinating women have been shown to be self-serving lies, what are misogynists left with? They have only one feeble argument that is still deferred to and shown undeserving respect across the world, even by people who should know better: “God told me to. I have to treat women as lesser beings, because it is inscribed in my Holy Book.”

Ophelia Benson and Jeremy Stangroom are the editors of Butterflies and Wheels, the best atheist site on the web. In Does God Hate Women? they forensically dismantle the last respectable misogyny. They argue: “What would otherwise look like stark bullying is very often made respectable and holy by a putative religious law or aphorism or scriptural quotation . . . They worship a God who is a male who gangs up with other males against women. They worship a thug.”

Every major religion’s texts were written at a time when women were regarded as little better than talking cattle. Their words and commands reflect this, plainly and bluntly. This book starts with a panoramic sweep across the world, showing – with archetypal cases – how every religion has groups today thumping women down with its Holy Book.

In Zamfara State in northern Nigeria, a pregnant 13-year-old girl called Bariya Ibrahim received 180 lashes of the cane in 2001 after being pimped by her father. The state’s attorney general said: “It is the law of Allah, so we don’t have anything to worry about.” In Jerusalem, ultra-Orthodox Jews have set up “modesty police” who terrorise young women who talk to men or show ordinary parts of their bodies. They break into their homes if they are seen with men; they force them to sit at the back of the bus, away from the men; and they even, in one recent instance, sprayed acid in the face of a 14-year-old girl.

In the areas of India still dominated by orthodox Hinduism, a widow is still expected to commit suicide when her husband dies, or go into isolation in an ashram. One – a septuagenarian woman named Radha Rani Biswas – fled and now begs on the streets of Vrindavan. She said: “My son tells me: ‘You have grown old. Now who is going to feed you? Go away.’ What do I do? My pain has no limit.” And on the directory of divine misogyny goes, running through Catholicism, Mormonism and more. Benson and Stangroom note: “Religion doesn’t necessarily originate ideas about female subordination, but it lends them a penumbra of righteousness, and it makes them ‘sacred’ and thus a matter for outrage if anyone disputes them.”

Methodically, they go through the excuses offered for these raw abuses of human rights by the religious, and their apologists.

The first – especially beloved of the Vatican and Islamists – is that women are not being treated worse, just “differently”. They claim that it accords a woman special “dignity” to trap her in the home. But this is an abuse of language. As the authors note: “Permanent consignment to a limited and lesser role in the world is not what ‘dignity’ is generally understood to mean . . . The smallness and intimacy and relatedness of home are fine things, but not if one is confined to them permanently.”

The religio-misogynists then claim that it is “racist” or “imperialist” to oppose such abuses. This merrily ignores how women within these cultures protest against their treatment – very loudly. They aren’t objecting to being imprisoned in their homes, or having their genitalia cut, or being stoned for having sex, because a white person told them to. Benson and Stangroom put it well: “Multiculturalism by definition makes a fetish of cultures, and it is almost impossible to do that without treating them as monolithic. As soon as you admit that all cultures have internal dissent and nonconformity, the whole idea of protecting or deferring to particular cultures breaks down into incoherence.”

Then the gentler, nicer apologists for religion arrive. They say that misogynists are simply misinterpreting the holy texts, which are in fact about love and compassion and kindness. But the authors point out this is certainly not the God of the texts who orders his followers to commit mass murder, including of women and children, and explicitly says women are inferior beings.

So, in order to defend their God, the apologists often have to lie about what He and His Prophets “say” in the texts. Cherie Blair, for example, claimed in a lecture: “It is not laid down in the Quran that women can be beaten by their husbands.” But it quite plainly is. The Quran says: “If you fear high-handedness from your wives, remind them [of the teachings of God], then ignore them when you go to bed, then hit them.”

Karen Armstrong – one of the most egregious defenders of superstition – repeatedly claims that Muhammad was an emancipator of women. Yet it is explained in the Hadith (the sayings and traditions of the Prophet) that he married a prepubescent child, and that when he was given two slave girls he gave the ugly one away to a friend and kept the beautiful one, Maryam, to use sexually. It is a strange model of female emancipation, to sleep with children and slaves.

There are people in all religions who have – through theological contortions – managed to leave behind literal readings of the text and invent a less foul God to believe in. It is not for atheists to say that one group of believers is right and the other is wrong, as we think they’re all wrong. We can note that the less literalist a believer is, the easier he is to live beside, but we will only discredit literalism and force reform if we are honest about the words of the texts, rather than trying to soft-soap believers.

By the end of this book-length blast, Benson and Stangroom have left religious hatred of women in rubble. Anybody not addled by superstition will have to conclude that such bigotry deserves neither respect nor deference. It does not deserve the taboos that today surround it. It deserves the opposite: contempt – and relentless, unyielding opposition.

Does God Hate Women?
Ophelia Benson and Jeremy Stangroom
Continuum, 208pp, £14.99

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44 comments

Joanna's picture

'every religion has groups today thumping women down with its Holy Book' ?

This sounds like a fascinating and convincing read. However, it is a shame that Benson and Stangroom did not take the time to investigate the rapidly growing minority of new religious movements such as Neopaganism which take it as one of their basic tenets that the divinity should be acknowledged in both masculine and feminine aspects and that women and men should be accorded absolutely equal respect.

If the authors are truly convinced that God hates women, maybe they should have spent some time asking a wider variety of Western women about the identity of their God.

cbscanlon's picture

All true enough — although atheism hasn't
necessarily been any better:

'Woman is not yet capable of friendship: women are
still cats and birds. Or at best cows...' Nietzsche in
Thus Spoke Zarathustra

'[E]verything about woman has one solution:
pregnancy... Man should be educated for war, and
woman for the recreation of the warrior; all else is
folly... Let woman be a plaything... The happiness of
man is: I will. The happiness of woman is: he wills...
You are going to woman? Do not forget the whip!' -
Thus Spoke Zarathustra - On Little Old and Young
Women

'One-half of mankind is weak, typically sick,
changeable, inconstant... she needs a religion of
weakness that glorifies being weak, loving, and being
humble as divine: or better, she makes the strong
weak--she rules when she succeeds in overcoming
the strong... Woman has always conspired with the
types of decadence, the priests, against the
"powerful", the "strong", the men' -- Nietzsche, The Will
to Power.

While some contortionists have tried to explain away
these ideas, they're about as convincing as intelligent
design.

Freud and the psychoanalytic tradition, similarly, has
been criticised by feminists scholars — as has
Marxism.

This suggests that patriarchalism can't be reduced to
the religion

(And claiming that Marxism is a form of messianic
thought — and therefore, religion is the root of the
problem — won't wash. The only intellectually honest
conclusion is that messianic/transcendental thinking
can take many forms, either theistic or atheistic.)

amanda's picture

lets see if you'll post my comment if i use the word erection instead...cultures where men cannot control their erections tend to imprison women and keep them low...

sciencenerd's picture

@SDG: Thank you. I agree and was about to say the exact same thing in responce to Rebbic. You probably said it better that I could have, though!

sciencenerd's picture

@SDG: Thank you! I totally agree and was about to say the exact same thing in response to Rebbic. Although, you probably said it better than I could have!

Dante Lucianos's picture

Which all goes to show that fundamentalist atheists and
religionists can be as bigoted as each other. The mark of
a truly educated person? Understanding comes before
criticism. Our two authors would be more persuasive if
they actually understood what they were criticizing.

Gggg's picture

Right on. I'd like to ask you to consider something
related:

You talk about genital cutting. In the United States major
surgery on the genitals of unconsenting human beings
happens all the time. I beg you to, as you consider and
protect the rights of women, to also care about the basic
human rights of men.

Circumcision is a procedure that was designed in the
Victorian era specifically to reduce sexual pleasure. It has
no place in the 21st century, and I hope that as you
continue to fight for women you don't overlook the right to
genital integrity that's being denied to men.

patro's picture

The authors are so predictable in their usung such
well worn and exaggerated arguments against all
Religion. Ignoring the human desire and need to
explain the unknowable, and describe life as it is
lived in our human skins. I agree with their assertions
of the misogyny of organized religions, but they can
not be seperated and analyized apart from their time
and place in history[her-story].This prejudice against
women is also regretably present in natureThere isn't
much stoning going on in the modern world now, nor
burning of witches where it is present it should be
condemned.Women are by and large smaller than
men and often take a subservient or secondary role
in the family structure, but not always.It will be so less
frequently as time goes on, but many women will
asser5t that the role of stay at home ,and nurturer is
not the lesser role, but every bit as important as the
hunter-gatherer husband.Ophelia and Jeremy are
behind the times and might be considered 'posers'
as this is certainly a stereotyped message every bit
as ridiculous as the previous male-dominated
patriarchy. Yes the authors show themselves to be
quite stylish and not ordinary fools as the rest of us
pedestrian thinkers! I don't subscribe to the religious
orthodoxy, but these kids simply trash anybody not in
their little weisenheimer club.

Apologianick's picture

Let's see. We have two books of the Bible named for women. In both books, the women are the main characters of the story worthy of emulation. We have the Bible saying men and women both bear the image of God. We have Jesus acknowledging women, which was out of step with the Judaism of his day. We have Paul telling husbands that they should be willing to die for their wives, something else out of step with his tradition. We have women being the first eyewitnesses of the resurrection. Paul tells us that in Christ there is no male or female as all may equally come to Christ.

Oh yeah. Obviously pure hatred of women.

Oberon Zell-Ravenheart's picture

Yes, I think it is pretty clear that the God of the monotheistic religions hates women. I entirely agree with the essential premise of this book, insofar as it applies to the religions it is referring to.

However, there are other religions--particularly the Neo-Pagan ones--in which the primary deity (Goddess = Mother Nature; Mother Earth; Gaia) not only doesn't hate women; She IS a woman.

And in these religions, women are honored as Priestesses (only Pagans have Priestesses--a crucial litmus test) and avatars of Divinity. In these religions, women are honored, respected, revered and adored. And most importantly--they are empowered. Check it out.

I hope that someday people writing important critiques about "religion" such as this one can look beyond their own little mythos and recognize that Christianity, Islam, Judaism, Hinduism and Buddhism are not the only religions. And that the God of the monotheistic religions isn't the only deity posited. That there are in fact many deities worshiped by different religions--and some of them are Goddesses, not Gods.

I am proud to be a Pagan Priest in a religion of glorious Goddesses and wonderful women.

Bright Blessings,
Oberon Zell-Ravenheart
Church of All Worlds (www.CAW.org)

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