"Women make trade-offs between success and likability"
A fascinating profile of Facebook's Sheryl Sandberg raises important questions about women in the wo
By Helen Lewis Published 17 July 2011 13:17
The current issue of the New Yorker has an intriguing profile of Sheryl Sandberg, the woman Mark Zuckerberg poached from Google in 2008 to become Facebook's chief operating officer.
As well as how it offers an insight into the simmering rivalry between these two internet giants, the piece is also worth reading for its discussion of the role of women in big business.
Sandberg doesn't describe herself as a feminist, although she is keen to increase the number of women at senior levels in tech companies (Facebook's six-man board is just that -- all men). The piece discusses juggling work and motherhood, the dearth of female engineers and whether asking about maternity leave is a "girl question" that makes a woman seem weak.
But, for me, there are two key insights. The first is that both men and women still find the idea of a woman in a high-profile role sufficiently unusual that it often provokes a negative emotional reaction:
Sandberg says she eventually realised that women, unlike men, encountered trade-offs between success and likability. The women had internalised self-doubt as a form of self-defense: people don't like women who boast about their achievements. The solution, she began to think, lay with the women. She blamed them more for their insecurities than she blamed men for their insensitivity or their sexism.
In a Ted talk, Sandberg reiterates this point: not enough women negotiate their salaries when entering a job, she believes (57 per cent of men do, against 7 per cent of women). And women are still lumbered with the lion's share of housework and childcare. Woman need to find a "real partner" at home and become more assertive at work.
The second point I found interesting is the one raised by critics of Sandberg's pull-your-socks-up-ladies approach: that it is difficult for women to negotiate the patronage system in companies when the bosses are all male.
Sandberg was lucky enough to be "sponsored" in her early career by her former tutor, US Business Secretary Larry Summers -- but for many women, being "taken under the wing" of a senior male executive would not be an entirely positive move.
The profile's author, Ken Auletta, quotes a paper by Sylvia Ann Hewlett, director of the gender and policy programme at Columbia, published in the Harvard Business Review:
Sponsorship, which often involves an older, married male spending one-on-one time, often off-site and after hours, with a younger, unmarried female, can look like an affair; and the greater the power disparity between the male and the female, the more intense the speculation becomes that the relationship is more than professional. If the woman is subsequently promoted, her achievement will be undermined by office gossip that she earned it illicitly.
Those are just a couple of highlights from a nuanced and wide-ranging piece, which doesn't pretend there are easy answers to the questions it poses. If you're interested in why women are still underrepresented at middle-management and boardroom level, it goes beyond the usual "They don't have a killer instinct"/"They drop out and have babies"/"Most businesses are institutionally sexist" lines and offer a few (sometimes uncomfortable) suggestions. Yes, it's long -- 8,000 words -- but well worth a read on a drizzly weekend afternoon.
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Does anything stop anyone from setting up there own business? I know self made women millionaires. It splits those who do something about it from those who expect the state to do it for them (thats a political not a sexist point of view).
The corporate system in larger companies is biased towards men but the same career blocks apply to both men and women. The argument goes that it does not matter for men as they are men and can take it so its their own fault if they dont get promoted.
Fine line between biggoted sexisim which holds women back and biggoted feminism being self serving neither of which are attractive.
"Poor Rebekah Brooks?" Sorry, just spat me breakfast. How deluded is it possible to be?
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The system's built on agism, sexism, racism and thisism and thatism.
It's called divide and conquer.
Do you really want a Middle/Upper Class Management position so you can sh*t on your fellow people below you?
The people in control are bastards - and so is anyone aspiring to be up there with them.
I can confirm my female boss has not made any such trade-off.
I am happy if my boss is a woman. In fact my boss head of Directors is a woman.
Sadly this sort of article inevitably falls into a “Why are not more women in powerful positions?” Then the argument of how the archaic barriers of the dastardly men can be passively-aggressively altered to allow potentially better females in, regardless I might add, of their individual ability in the specific context of whatever employment is in question or whether there would be a better qualified candidate of the opposite sex.
Perhaps the questions should be ‘why should women be in more senior positions?” Are such an aims is coherent biologically to the needs of society and its benefit and harmony. I simply cannot relate to this argument that there is any egalitarian (or feminist sentiment for that matter) in trying to argue that women should be in these roles, irrespective of their ability or will be in the near future of their lives, needed in looking after their children.
This is pretty normal for most women, whereas the whole career thing will feed more naturally into the male hierarchy of their life priorities as they seek desirability to knock up the aforementioned ‘career women’ and also provide for the screaming offspring. Not that I particularly like the sound of it, but that’s generally what people do – and the heavy endorsement of a very consumerist lifestyle has meant that many duel working couples are unhappy and overworked by the ‘liberation’ of women or some other poor excuse for the crappy existence foisted upon upcoming generations, qua, to pay for Asian car and a pokey cave house with nothing but mortgage repayments look forward to.
Women may comfortably have the ability, but the drivers in society and the biological need mean that in most cases women could be happier without the phallic pretentions and intellectual affectations that many “leftist” social engendering types have foisted upon them.
' If you're interested in why women are still under-represented at middle-management and boardroom level...'
Then you're no socialist. If you were you'd believe in workers' self-management and no hierarchies to crawl up.
Great piece! And how true it is. I can't help thinking about poor Rebekah Brooks in this context, and there was trade off.
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