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Why the Pope has a point

The abuse of children within the home is something that society has yet to tackle adequately.

It has to be a bad day for the ethical health of the species when we are taking lessons in child welfare from the Catholic Church. Speaking to an audience of US bishops in a week when the US just happened to be embroiled in a scandal involving the possible cover-up of child sex-abuse at Syracuse University and Penn State College, the Pope took pains to remind the faithful - and anyone else who might be listening - that the Catholic church was not the only institution whose members have turned a blind eye to the rape and abuse of prepubescents in its care.

"Just as the church is rightly held to exacting standards in this regard, all other institutions, without exception, should be held to the same standards," said Joseph Ratzinger, conveying a rather tasteless undertone of relief to the church's statement of official repulsion.

Ratzinger, nonetheless, is technically correct. Child abuse is a social disease that contemporary culture has barely begun to address. It extends far beyond the institutional reach of the Vatican, American college sports, or the organised gangs of predatory paedophiles on whom the British government is orchestrating a welcome crackdown.

Child abuse is far from an institutional phenomenon. Eighty per cent of child sexabuse takes place within the home, and most of it is perpetrated by parents, close relatives and family friends. In 2010/11, more than 17,000 sexual crimes against children under 16 were recorded in England and Wales - a third of all recorded sexual crime - and this statistic represents only those cases that were brought to the attention of the police. A
large proportion of young victims choose not to speak about or report their abuse, sometimes for many years. This may be for the same reasons that lie behind our hesitancy as a culture to speak and write about such abuse: shame and fear that we will be disbelieved and, above all, a confusion about how to confront cruelty when it occurs within the family - the very structure that is supposed to be the bedrock of love, support and
social cohesion. That is the one institution no politician has yet been brave enough to challenge.

Home truths

The abuse of children within the home is something that society has yet to tackle adequately. There are plenty of resources available for survivors,
particularly those who can afford therapy. Search online for "child abuse" and you will find endless web pages in soothing pastels where victims share their stories of suffering; wander into any chain bookshop and you will encounter shelves devoted to books with soft sepia pictures of weeping children and titles like Please, Daddy, No.

Child abuse is still approached, largely, as something for victims to grow up and get over, rather than as a systemic social ill that requires a political response. For all the appropriate public consternation over paedophile priests, seedy sports coaches and shadowy child-porn rings, we are as far as we ever have been from accepting on a broader level that the abuse of vulnerable young people is not something that can be allowed to continue, even behind closed doors, even within families who love one another.

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125 comments

Spud Middleton's picture

"...the Catholic church was not the only institution whose members have turned a blind eye to the rape and abuse of prepubescents in its care."

Indeed not, although since Ratzinger-once personally responsible for Vatican policy in relation to reports of child abuse- has probably turned more blind eyes and condoned more instances of child rape than anybody else in recorded history, perhaps he isn't the ideal spokesman on this topic. I'm guessing there are literally thousands of child rapists walking free thanks to his 'interventions'.

If it weren't for its 'special' status, the Catholic church would undoubtedly be classed as an international organised crime syndicate devoted to the systematic rape of children. I certainly welcome the Pope's speech on this matter but it does create a somewhat incongruous precedent; I can imagine being lectured on the benefits of anger management by Genghis Khan would invoke a similar sense of "What the Fuck?".

...and I speak as a one-time Catholic. I hesitate to employ the term 'lapsed' since it implies I once occupied a position from which lapsing was possible. I'm a one-time Catholic in the sense that some old kiddy-fiddler once poured some holy water on my head and pronounced some profound mumbo-jumbo in order to welcome me into the bosom of his fucked-up paedophile organisation.

Mr. Divine's picture

Ian, I don't know why you think meds enable people to make more sense.

Mr. Divine's picture

Of course other religions spouted from the corruption of the Vatican. Perhaps the greatest was the Quakers and not just because of the porridge and the quarks that lay inside. A dwarf of a man called Benjamin Ley took on his own people, the Quakers, calling on them to free the slaves that they owned. Ley was a little over four feet tall, a hunchback, and appeared like a Christmas Elf with wild white hair. He always wore the same non-sparkly outfit. Once he went into his church half way through the sermon with a Bible and a Sword. He stabbed the Bible and red juice came pouring out onto some of the assembled. He was into stunts in the 18th century!

People remember Wilberforce but Ley came way before him. His efforts persuaded Quakers in the 1780s to free their slaves.

http://trilogy.brynmawr.edu/speccoll/quakersandslavery/commentary/people...

Mr. Divine's picture

I find that when I'm psychotic that I make a lot more sense than when I'm not. Other people might not think so but so what ... what makes them think that what they're thinking is the 'sane' way to think and feel? If you look at some of my writing when I'm psychotic it's ace poetry and prose. Even Laurie Penny would give her right spider bitten hand to write like that. As a writer she's definitely in the Premier League but until she becomes psychotic she'll never win the title. Instead she'll languish in the confines of other peoples' perceptions of what is imagination and what is possible. She'll be too cool, too much of a piss taker, too rational, too concerned that others will laugh at her for being so silly and pathetic. She'll be too concerned about all of these people that she'll never fall in love with her soul mate.

What's the point of having an imagination if you're just going to conform to boundaries set by past members of the comic set?

Spud Middleton's picture

Buckskins

"..It never took me long to figure out what a load of crap the whole thing is."

It wasn't like that for me. I'd always sorta classed religious narratives with Santa Claus, the Easter Bunny and fairy tales. I can still recall my disbelief when a priest patiently explained to me that baby Jesus was 'real'. I can still feel the almighty slap around the head I received -aged about 7 or 8-when I started laughing because I thought he was cracking a joke.

I went home and asked my dad. He said "No, you're right they're just silly fairy tales for grown ups who haven't really grown up". Then he went around to the priest's and told him if he laid a hand on me again he'd break his legs. No doubt he ran to his bishop and complained about being 'abused' by a godless thug.

jankaas's picture

"So jankaas, you said you would answer any question with a straight answer."

yes i did.

"Do you have any plans to go to Australia in the next 12 months?"

sorry, no. too far + 4 of us = too expensive.

Anonymous's picture

Thank you so much for this article Laurie.

As someone who was raped as a young child by my father, it is such a relief to read this sort of article, not least because it is quite rare.

I'd also like to say that most victims do not become abusers. For a start, the majority of victims are female and the majority of abusers are male.

Tesco Shelf Stacker's picture

Yup I agree, physical abuse of children is odious ... emotional abuse and neglect too I might add.

I hope the spider bite is a lot better!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bvFuUaCe8eY

Aintree iron's picture

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2PgHiQRm4wI&feature=related

jankaas's picture

"Cloggy if all or any of your ridicules conclusions were correct, what would be the point in my doing so?"

well my little Septic half-wit, there is this rather quaint notion central to discussion and debate. people ask one another questions once in a while. you did this a few posts ago, and i answered "47". you still have not reciprocated. why?

then you claim to be a consultant, full partner no less. so in the spirit of discussion/debate i asked what field you consult in. your answer; abuse & evasion.

add to this your relentless potty mouth shooting off insults, and i just can't resist the urge to wind you up and watch you implode.

but your lack of input is becoming a crushing bore. you will have to do some work if you want me to keep posting to you.

Dave Perry's picture

Known and worked with number of people who've been through this. What it does to people..something like that, with a trusted family member.. it's beyond my words, not theirs sometimes unfortunately. How anyone can call for more humour in a sensative piece about a topic like this...? (she mocked the pope right off the bat, what more d'you want?) I felt like she contained the rage pretty well, i detected shouty typing, mostly towards the end. For me there's anger, but mostly it's just incomprehension.

Buckskins's picture

Thank you Cloggy, I feel much better....*sigh*

Mr. Divine's picture

As a Roman Catholic I would like to point out the main advantage of this religion, namely confession. Once you've confessed your sins to God and Jesus, and said your penance and been absolved you are free from the guilt. You can start again. Your guilt is instantly absolved by the love of God. You don't need a priest to do this for you can just do it yourself. This is a fantastic psychological tool for your health yet people get all uptight about the malpractice of the organisation and the idea of there being a God.

Buckskins's picture

My posts could be to long. I took all the naughty words out. There is no sh1t, cun t, or fuk or mucky stuff.

Buckskins's picture

Mr D.

I don't think "a part of yourself 'seeks' an answer to the question of creation" that the concept of infinity of time and space are unanswerable questions nor are they the entire equation in discovering creation. In not so many words you could be saying that religion brings comfort and inner peace to many of us. This is true, but not to me. Have you ever thought what a weapon religion is and the role it plays in wielding power for the wrong reasons.

jankaas's picture

"Thank you Cloggy"

you're very welcome me old Septic*

(it's Cockney rhyming slang, nothing to do with me; septic tank = Yank)

"My posts could be to long."

could be. unlike the word 'to' then..... ;o)

Buckskins's picture

I use to for everything. I'm going to leave you a post in the other thread. .....because you are being a bit naughty again.

jankaas's picture

"I use to for everything."

ok

"I'm going to leave you a post in the other thread. .....because you are being a bit naughty again."

oh be still my beating heart.......

Mr. Divine's picture

Yes have to agree to Tesco shelf stacker. I really want you to get well soon Laurie from the spider bite. In fact I think I can speak for all of us here and hope you get well soon.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUd8Qs_DAZ0

Buckskins's picture

Just make sure it's only your heart dear.

Mr. Divine's picture

Buckskins: Of course I know how religion has been used as a weapon mainly by men who like to think they are great. Sometimes the more they prostrate themselves before God the greater they think they are. Some women get on the act as well. They stick on a nun's outfit and try to deny their fluttering heart. Shame on you ... why can't you just say I Love You?

You see I don't belong to a religious organisation. There is no reason whatsoever that I can't say I am a Muslim or a Catholic. And why can't I reject some of their interpretations and accept the ones that I feel will benefit me?

It's good to hear that Laurie Penny has finally realised that going around in a nun's outfit isn't as black and white and she makes out. There are many shades of gray and red in her knicker box brain cells.

jankaas's picture

"Just make sure it's only your heart dear."

are you grooming me....?

Mr. Divine's picture

Do you need your hair brushing?

jankaas's picture

nope, though would almost like to se your reasoning.....

pls also note that your "best guesses" so far are usually wrong (see; Buckskins is a farmer, which he is not apparently. and, Buckskins in married, again he says he is not)

you could just ask me relevant direct questions. unlike Buckskins i will answer such.

Buckskins's picture

Please tell me what I have to do in order to have you quit posting to me.

Why would I tell YOU anything. Any information you get you try to use it to further your fantasy life and imagination that is fueled by jealousy. I asked you your age is and you elected to tell me. WTF is this ? Are you the host for To Tell The Truth. Mind your own fukin business. If I am talking with another poster about something personal, keep your nose out of it.

Got it Jackass?

crabstix's picture

So, Mr. Divine, a priest can fiddle with a child, feel guilty, confess all (to himself), then 'start again'?

What a great system!

jankaas's picture

erm....thanks, but no thanks.

(this thread is a bit odd, you as a lapsed Catholic want to brush my luscious locks, and the Yankee Catholic keeps posting comments of a sexual nature. like he's imagining me doing....you know....things...)

Mr. Divine's picture

So you've been taking the piss out of little baby Jesus! Spud, has it ever occurred to you that you've generated bad karma and that's why you live in a cramped terrace house in Geordie Land and Everton never wins anything? Just imagine God and Jesus sitting up in heaven watching you laughing at one of their holy representatives? If I was you I would seek that priest out and prostrate yourself naked. Let the priest do what He feels is necessary to atone for your sins.

If you're lucky Everton might get into the final of the League Cup.

jankaas's picture

seriously Mr D, he wrote this earlier;

"sh1t, cun t, or fuk or mucky stuff."

what kind of person i ask you...?

crabstix's picture

One might think that the thing was designed by and for paedophiles... no?

Mr. Divine's picture

jankaas ... how long does internet grooming usually go on for ... 3 years? Quite often there is an element of deception like the person who is doing the grooming is not who they say they are. jankass maybe it is you that is doing the grooming because you are not who you say you are .. and you're leading on Buckskins, a married man with a Texas ranch. You could be the person doing the grooming ... I mean who are you?

I would like to groom Laurie Penny because quite frankly her clothes could do with a good brush down. There's no way she'd accept me anyway because I'm always having little digs at her despite the fact that I think she's a sensational writer with a wicked sense of humour. I suppose being married with four kids living in macho man paradise might put her off as well. Besides she never writes to me.

Dickie1's picture

@ Mr D

"I mean who are you?"

Not this shit again. I thought we established that Spud was a middle aged, female ex-stockbroker from Basingstoke and that you are not really a farmer in Oz.

Fuck knows what Stuart is but he's normally an alright sort of person, if a little full of shit.

What are you grooming Mr D, lunatics?

Mr. Divine's picture

I don't if the system was started by pedophiles but obviously it has attracted them in droves. It is amazing what has been done under the pretense of God's will.
While waiting for my lithium, anti-psychotic and sleeping medication at the Chemist I asked a retired Catholic priest sitting waiting for his meds about confession and it was he who told me it was instantly granted. I asked the question that if it is instant why then has God enabled other men to arrest wrong doers and imprison them for 20 years? That doesn't seem instant to me. Despite 40 years of priesthood he couldn't give me an answer!

Mr. Divine's picture

Buckskins: Marx said that religion prevented a person from realising their true self, that it was a form of alienation. First of all how does a person know when they reach their 'true' self. Second, it appears to me that a person has a number of different 'selves'. In fact this is the current thinking of 'psychologists'.

So a part of yourself 'seeks' an answer to the question of creation, to this concept of infinity of time and space. 'Part' of the 'answer' lies in various religious thoughts and writings. So when you connect with these thoughts and accept the possibility that they are true then are you not joining some of your fellow human beings, removing the alienation between you and them and the creation of the world? You are with them because you accept the possibility that they are true.

Mr. Divine's picture

Crabstix: Confession is like therapy with the added bonus that you have been forgiven by your maker. You can't get any higher authority that the 'Creator'.

If you are beating yourself up over thinking dirty thoughts (and doing dirty things) about some sexy shelia's topless picture on the Max Faulkner's website then a confession to the highest authority can clear your mind. It can stop all those thoughts from snowballing out of control.

Mr. Divine's picture

You've got a nerve Whatever with a name that means 'so what' and then complaining I'm doing something you don't like. Whatever .. it is interesting to know the personal details of people. By the way I do have a small 5 acre farm with 24 sheep and lots of vegetables and strawberry plants. By Christmas you'll have some photos were you can stick where ever you want to whatever.

And I bet you know fuck all about being a lunatic. A bit of a gap in your education mate. Duh he's a loony. Duh I'm always a sane person. Duh those loonies are stupid. They're not like me. I never say anything stupid. I never say anything.

jankaas's picture

@Mr D

"jankass; you're right..."

thanks, though do mind my 'bottom' pls. no doubt just a typo.

"That would make the absolution more complete."

well said. i share your opinion that much of the maneuvering from the Vatican is for fear of financial liability. this scandal could essentially bankrupt their institution.

if there is any truth in that assessment then it does illustrate that the Vatican is as morally corrupt as secular money worshippers. something many of us already thought based on the history of the Catholic church.

Mr. Divine's picture

To really understand where religious text have come from you need to comprehend different mental states. To understand people you need to know about them. It helps to know where they are from and what they have done. When I met people I ask lots of questions ... I don't talk about myself. I go into the local pub and speak to someone sitting alone. I've been doing this for decades. I know loads of people all around the town. In small shops like speciality sweet shops I stop and talk to people and ask them about their lives. Am I grooming people or do I just like finding out what people think and do? Do you do this or do you just talk about yourself or in your own peer group? How are you supposed to find out what people really think?

jankaas's picture

"Please tell me what I have to do in order to have you quit posting to me."

beg?

"Why would I tell YOU anything."

really? but we covered this already. see my previous explanation regarding those concepts called 'discussion' and 'debate'.

"fueled by jealousy"

oh brother.....and you accuse me of too much fantasy and imagination.

"I asked you your age is and you elected to tell me."

and you did not reciprocate, didn't even say thank you. just nothing but swearing. which is all a bit odd and quite unfriendly. again i refer you to those concepts called 'discussion' and 'debate'.....(bloody hell you are so dumb...)

"If I am talking with another poster about something personal, keep your nose out of it."

this is not your personal chat-room dear.

"Got it Jackass?"

yes i have Sucksdicks. it's rather hard to miss.

Mr. Divine's picture

And please don't tell me by listening to politicians or watching the TV.

Spud Middleton's picture

"So you've been taking the piss out of little baby Jesus! Spud, has it ever occurred to you that you've generated bad karma..."

Funnily enough it didn't Mr D. I'm an all purpose, multicultural atheist opposing all stripes of numinous tomfoolery, so just how likely is it that I'm happy to ridicule the notion of baby Jesus but then I'm going to spend time worrying about the effect on my Karma?

..but then again, now I think about it..

Spud Middleton's picture

"Just imagine God and Jesus sitting up in heaven watching you laughing at one of their holy representatives?"

Can't quite get a clear image Mr D, there's all this psychic interference from the the three little pigs and Sesame Street.

I walker's picture

Confession merely justifies the religion and in this case also the act of abuse. I can do it because I can be absolved. I wonder how many priests confessed their abuse and continued to abuse, because gods love would in the end forgive them - the ultimate get out clause.

Stuart Eels's picture

Mr Divine

Have you stopped taking your meds again, what is this obsession with Laurie Penny when you live in the land of the Sheila Goddesses? Leave the keyboard alone for a while and take a walk on the wild side mmmmm

Stuart Eels's picture

jankaas

My best guess for Buckskins is that he is a spotty teenager, who spends most of his life in front of a computer, living his virtual life and spouting all his lies about it here.

Yes Mr Divine, we hammered the giants of the eight tier of English Football 6-1, we were lucky that we've got a good Goalie or it would have been 6-6! We're gonna win the cup, now wheres my meds???????

Cap Flyer's picture

(In before the angry CiF hordes attack you for the title alone)

Well said, Laurie.

Mr. Divine's picture

Sorry jankaas ... my eyes are giving me grief at the moment. Their delaying tactics is all to do with money and reputation. Britain should be taxing this organisation like any other. Does anyone know if the churches pay the poll tax? And there is no income tax on their income! I can't understand why these groups of people can avoid tax. I can't understand why they are allowed to withhold pedophiles from the law. Is it because they are wearing Fucking Fancy Dress?

Mr. Divine's picture

You're on the wrong channel mate. Have you got a remote control or do you change manually? You do realise that there is more than one channel? Whatever, try Channel 4. Oh God you've got lots of channels there now haven't ya so they could be anywhere. I only really watch the sport and documentaries. The Aussies are playing the Kiwis today in Hobart ... Van Diemens land.

Don't get me wrong if you don't want to 'say' there is a God then don't bother. When I was hearing a multitude of voices in my head in a wardrobe in Japan I found it very useful to become a Muslim for as you know with us Muslims there is only one unseeable God ... and thus only one voice.

The word 'Allah' is very interesting especially if you substitute the letter A with a mild guttural h. It's like you're breathing the word on your last legs. I know exactly why the Koran is written as it is.

Mr. Divine's picture

You're right and you're wrong Stuart. The meds have been washing down my throat ... but you're right in the sense that I've been getting far too obsessed with Laurie. Nothing can be gained by this fixation. I've even been following her on Twitter .. how juvenile is that! I suppose there is something about her writing style that gets to me. Then I saw some pictures of her with her hair in a mop style partly in her eyes. I go, "Oh that's nice". Then the youtube videos got me really interested with her talking. It's the writing that seems to connect that has me kind of transfixed.

But you're right Stuart I've got to take a few cold and then hot and then cold showers. I'll try to forget and I wont bother mentioning it. Do you think that will work Stuart? I should really apologise to her as well for being an internet blog stalker.

How have you been anyway Stuart? Bristol Rovers have been going great guns against non-league teams I hear. And everything ... going well in your new abode .. a small little village in the West Country sounds great.

jankaas's picture

"Just as the church is rightly held to exacting standards in this regard, all other institutions, without exception, should be held to the same standards," said Joseph Ratzinger
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of course he has a point. so why does he inist on setting the bar so very low for his institution?

just because he is now being dragged into reality, and has to face the fact that it is his mess, you think it's fine he starts to lecture others?

i don't think so. he should hang his head in shame, and only share working practices with other institutions that he has put in place, and that show results.

and i absolutely don't see how Ratzinger's quote, where he focuses on "other institutions", allows one to conclude he meant the family. if that's what he meant, why did he not say so?

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