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Divorce - Do women win too much?

Lois Rogers

Published 19 February 2007

For divorcing wives, England is now seen as by far the most generous country in Europe, with some landmark celebrity settlements setting the pace. But is this really justice?

The unique sympathy bestowed by English judges on women in the throes of marriage breakdown has led to thousands of wives from other countries flocking to London to have their divorce cases heard here. While other European countries expect women to return to work and support themselves after the breakdown of a marriage, England has experienced a counter-feminist revolution in recent years. It has become normal here for women to lay claim to all the assets their husbands have brought to the marriage, and even future earnings, as well as being supported by them for the rest of their lives

The situation has spawned a vast legal industry. We have no fewer than 11,000 solicitors specialising in marital disputes, and of the annual 150,000 divorces that go through English courts, 24,000 - or one in six - now involve couples from other countries where the disgruntled partner, usually the wife, has managed to spring the petition here in order to get the best deal.

Now all that is set to change with a massive upheaval being proposed from Brussels and due to come into force next year. The European Commission has put forward a controversial new legal framework to streamline attitudes to adultery and maintenance across Europe. It wants to end divorce "tourism" and prevent disgruntled spouses shopping for a court hearing in England. Although Britain is still calling for amendments to the proposals, the Brussels timescale decrees that the changes should come into force at the beginning of 2008.

Specialist lawyers predict that the new regulation, known as Rome III, will highlight the gulf between how divorce is dealt with in England compared with everywhere else. The regulation introduces the concept of "applicable law", mean ing that many people born and married elsewhere would not have access to an English-style divorce. The intention is to introduce greater consistency in the treatment of divorcees through out the European Union. English divorce court judges will thus be compelled to abandon any misty-eyed compassion for women and fall into step with other countries in order to stamp out the pressure from divorce shoppers.

In recent years, a number of lurid public div orce cases have attracted the headlines. The wife of the celebrity golfer Colin Montgomerie received a £15m divorce settlement, and a court ruled that the wife of the Middlesbrough soccer star Ray Parlour was entitled to a one-third share of his future earnings to reflect her early role in promoting his talents. Last year, the House of Lords ruled that financier's wife Melissa Miller was entitled to £5m - a quarter of her husband's fortune - in compensation for a failed marriage lasting under three years, and despite the fact she had a career of her own. At the same time, Julia McFarlane was awarded annual payments for life of £250,000 from her ex-husband to compensate her for the successful legal career she would have had, had she not got married and raised a family.

But it is not just the wives of very rich men who do well. A survey published last year by the accountants Grant Thornton revealed that the average "pot of wealth" to be divided on divorce stood at £1m in 2005. Non-working wives generally got 53 per cent of it. "England is seen as the most 'divorce friendly' jurisdiction for women," said Andrea McLaren, the firm's senior specialist in marital settlements. "There are increasing numbers of people who have holiday homes and other assets abroad. The situation is complex and we would welcome EU-wide divorce rules."

The rest of Europe has got on with implementing the principles of feminism and equality, for which generations of women have fought long and hard. When couples split up, the general view is that pay-offs to wives, entirely separate from maintenance for children, should be along the lines of redundancy - a bit of a cushion to help with adapting to a new lifestyle. Laws are generally fairly tightly drawn, reducing the scope for argument. In England, however, the discretion allowed to judges means that case law comes to reflect the prevailing opinion.

It was the White v White ruling in 2000 which is deemed to have established new rules giving women a 50:50 entitlement to marital property. Pamela and Martin White, who had run a farm together, had been married for 33 years. Mrs White was offered £800,000 when the marriage ended, but the law lords decreed the sum should be increased to £1.5m.

Since then, the notion of equality seems to have been subsumed in the drive for women to present themselves as victims. When it comes to divorce, they are being seen here as largely incapable of supporting themselves, and are laying claim to inherited wealth, and the fruits of any previous career success their husband has brought to the marriage, in a way that would be unlawful in neighbouring European member states.

"You just have to look at who judges are," said William Longrigg, a solicitor who has regularly acted in cases where couples are fighting over assets worth millions. "They are part of the establishment, largely male, and drawn from a narrow social class. They still hold the view that women need to be protected. Other people may consider that paternalistic or patronising, but old habits die hard. Because they are allowed to operate so much discretion in divorce cases, we get all sorts of strange decisions." Like many of his legal colleagues, Longrigg believes an overhaul of the divorce laws is long overdue.

The latest high-profile case to make waves was the break-up of the television personality Chris Tarrant and his wife Ingrid. Their divorce last week followed revelations that Tarrant, 60, had a protracted affair. Tarrant is understood to be handing over half of his £10m property portfolio, plus £5m in lieu of maintenance payments, to compensate his wife for the failure of their 15-year marriage."I am deeply sorry for the hurt I have caused my loyal wife and wonderful children," Tarrant said in a statement issued last year. "I have only myself to blame for the breakdown of my marriage."

He may well have been happy to take the responsibility, but such a generous settlement would be unlikely even in countries such as Greece and Italy where gender roles would appear to be more traditional than ours. Their legal systems assume maintenance for ex-wives will be short-term. Most other regimes also assume women are capable of working once a toddler reaches three, while in countries such as Sweden, it is only available during a "transition period" to find work or undertake training. In Denmark, maintenance payments for ex-wives are a rarity. Other countries, including Belgium, Germany and France, also take the view that any assets acquired by the man before the beginning of the marriage remain his when the marriage ends. Prenuptial agreements decreeing the division of assets should the couple split up are still not recognised in England, but are binding in countries across Europe from France and Spain to Poland and the Czech Republic.

Of the 2.2 million marriages taking place an nually across the European Union, almost a fifth involve partners from different countries. The international divorce rate is not far behind, with 16 per cent of the 875,000 failed marriages involving couples from different countries.

Last month, the constitutional affairs minister Harriet Harman gave a speech in Brussels pointing out the urgent need for the European Commission to come up with new workable rules that could be applied despite differences in countries' legal codes. "It is important that family justice works across different European countries," she declared. "It is essential the commission brings forward proposals on which we can all agree."

If the changes are to work, however, English divorce legislation - or its interpretation - will have to change to bring us into line with Europe. Otherwise, lawyers say there will merely be fresh rounds of legal battles by wives arguing for the right of access to London's gilded divorce courts. Unhappy corporate wives have been known to confide how they deliberately lured their husbands to jobs in London, in the knowledge that after six months' residence they will qualify to present a divorce petition here. "We call it the race to court," said Anna Worwood of the law firm Manches. "It is well known that our system is favourable. The idea is you get your petition in first and claim a lot of maintenance from the courts here, before the husband launches proceedings in a less favourable jurisdiction."

Yet for many divorcees, the implication that they are seeking to "fine" ex-husbands is deeply offensive. A 43-year-old former solicitor and mother-of-two, who has just emerged from a protracted court battle with her ex-husband, said: "I do feel bitter. He was the one having an affair. I tried to save the marriage, I gave up my career to give him an easier life. If things had gone his way, I would have been left with almost nothing. I don't think it has anything to do with notions of feminism. It is fairness. It would be more to the point to bring European systems in line with ours."

Cate Briddick, a barrister from the pressure group Rights of Women, said the recent high-profile divorce decisions merely recognised the principles of equality between the partners in a marriage. "Until now, married women have suffered a huge disadvantage," she said. "The partners should come to a marriage as equals and should be treated as equals when they leave it. If you don't want that kind of relationship, you don't marry."

A spokesman for the Department for Constitutional Affairs said last week that Harriet Harman is due to attend a series of further meetings in Brussels to search for common ground in the divorce minefield. Although there is certainty that change will come, he acknowledged that, like divorce itself, the negotiations are likely to involve a bitter battle.

Tour divorce: how Europeans do it
Research by Lucy Knight

Denmark
Maintenance is not common in Denmark, and when granted it does not normally last more than ten years. In England, chances of gaining maintenance for life increased after the 2006 McFarlane case, in which the wife received £250,000 for life.

France
Maintenance for the wife can be claimed if she conceived during the marriage; it is paid until the child turns three. But all maintenance depends on the obligated spouse's financial ability to pay. Pre-marital assets and inherited wealth are excluded.

Spain
Most of Spain splits assets acquired during marriage equally. In Catalonia, however, these do not have to be shared. Maintenance depends upon factors including length of marriage, health, employment prospects and the parties' skills.

Sweden
In principle, all marital property is to be divided equally between the husband and wife. Anything acquired before marriage is subject to any pre-nuptial agreement. Ex-spouses are expected to support themselves, though maintenance may be awarded for a transitional period.

Scotland
Often seen as "mean" for its 50:50 division of matrimonial property, regardless of the length of the marriage. Still, inherited assets and assets acquired prior to marriage are excluded. Also, maintenance is usually paid for only three years from divorce unless there are exceptional circumstances.

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13 comments from readers

Divorce Aid Editor
15 February 2007 at 12:32

We aren't all rich, high profile women in divorce cases, Ms Rogers, and what does sharing marriage assets have to do with 'winning'?

Seems that these cases always grab the headlines and seem sensational but if you equate the payments and terms to normal cases then you will see that the judges are trying to be fair. Isn't fairness the aim of the legal system?

Please remember that there are over 2 million children living in poverty here as a result of one parent households.

Chris Tarrant wasn't forced to 'hand over' his millions; he was decent and offered this. We don't have to approach the courts if we could all agree on fairness.

I for one applaud our legal system which looks at each case on its merits. I dread the day our judges are ruled by bureaucrats in Brussels and it is rare for someone to condone this.

Sorry, I'm just a little woman. I shall get back to my dusting....

FH
17 February 2007 at 10:36

Men rule, OK?

It is ironic that this is published in the same week as the fuss about the UNICEF report. How long do you think women can safely stay home with a new baby and leave their career unaffected? 3 weeks?

shazzza
20 February 2007 at 23:39

Lois Rogers' feminist sensibilities are displaced here. Much as feminism has liberated and empowered women, it has not quite totally broken through the glass ceiling in the corporate world where such wealth may be made. So, yes, where these big money divorces take place, women do need a certain measure of protection from the courts. The Heather Mill-Macartneys of the world may make the feminist in us cringe, but they inhabit a world where penalising the women would have the effect of letting off the men who already enjoy a host of financial and social advantages simply because they possess a penis. The solution seems simpler to me: allow men in the same position to try get everything off their high flying wives in a divorce. We know how likely such a situation is...

Sue Stapely
28 February 2007 at 10:15

As a high-earning woman (and former family law specialist solicitor) I believe the pendulum has now swung too far in the favour of wives, and that the matter should be more gender neutral. On my divorce, I surrendered rather than more than half the total assets as my husband had accumulated dates without my knowledge and was the much lower earner, but I value my pride and independence and simply started again, having settled the matter quietlyl without much of our assets being squandered on legal fees.

In the case of John Charman, soon to be before the court of appeal, he made ALL the money in the marriage. She contributed negligibly but has rejected a very generous offer of £20m (that's twenty million pounds) from her former husband, and was awarded £48m by a judge, unfamiliar, it seems, with the impact this will have on his business, employees and future. Surely any woman can manage on £20m these days?

LegalBeagle, London


06 March 2007 at 11:35

Lois Rogers focuses on some of the big money, celebrity cases to underline her very correct point. But down in the lower echelons, it is even worse for men. If you go to any family law solicitor, as a man on the brink of a possible separation, and they will lay out for you the following template: you move out of the matrimonial home, which you continue to pay for along with child suppot and some portion of your assets , and you see the kids every other weekend and half of school holidays. Little or no consideration is given to her earning power or wealth - she is the mother, after all, and if there is anything our family courts are reknowned for, it is their kneejerk support of mothers to the detriment of children and fathers. Mr Millr and Mr Parlour may be understandably bitter about the court decisions in their cases, but they'll get by. For your average bloke, though, the "template" described above can be financially and emotionally devastating, leaving a man living with his parents or in a bedsit, unable to properly see his children and saddled with responsibilites with no rights. The template is out of date and needs fixing.

Been through it.

AdVader
14 May 2007 at 12:57

Divorce is never normal and always childabuse, further on striking defathering is also a capital crime (against humanity). Parents have the duty and children have the right. Government must guarantee equal parent rights otherwise it is a criminal organization, Carepower is backwards and a weekend in a fortnight makes nonsense.

Changeneeded
28 September 2007 at 19:19

Its funny how women and feminists demand equal rights across the board but are quite happy to have outdated and clueless judges 'protect' women in a patriarchal fashion when it comes to divorce - so much for patriarchy as a bad thing. Come on girls you can't have it both ways. The courts and the family courts marginalise men and particularly fathers daily - so much for fairness - one who knows - divorced for unreasonable behaviour because my ex would not name her married lover and agree to adultery - hence my unreasonable behaviour (fabricated) was also used as a stick with which to beat me in terms of access to children. Hey guess what? Not all girls are sugar and spice and all things nice!'

Changeneeded
28 September 2007 at 19:20

Its funny how women and feminists demand equal rights across the board but are quite happy to have outdated and clueless judges 'protect' women in a patriarchal fashion when it comes to divorce - so much for patriarchy as a bad thing. Come on girls you can't have it both ways. The courts and the family courts marginalise men and particularly fathers daily - so much for fairness - one who knows - divorced for unreasonable behaviour because my ex would not name her married lover and agree to adultery - hence my unreasonable behaviour (fabricated) was also used as a stick with which to beat me in terms of access to the children. Hey guess what? Not all girls are 'sugar and spice and all things nice!'

Allforeurope
12 November 2007 at 00:45

The system sucks......... in fact the country as a whole is falling to pieces! Europe has it in a nut shell, and I think we should follow suit.

I am a divorced woman and took the decision to leave with what I entered the marriage with. Perfectly able to pick up where I left off.

Now my current partner is in an appeal with regards to maintenance, and I can not believe what I am hearing. So, all these women who want MORE need a slap in the face and a reality check. And irreconsilable differences is a pathectic excuse for a divorce. Lets lay it all out on the table ladies do you or dont you want these men in your lives? Yes, then be a lady and try to win him back. No, Piss off.......live your life and let him live his. Find some other sucker to feed your habit for the next ten years and then divorce him!..........

simple123
10 March 2008 at 16:11

Germany has now joined this new reduced maintence payments for divorced woman - already complaints!

this Article was translated in Google from www.haufe.de ( Rigths,law etc)

28.02.2008 | Law

Entertaining reform: constitutional complaint against new maintenance law

The sometimes harsh consequences of the alimony reform have reached those affected. Now, a mother of two children constitutional complaint charged. As expected, the Federal Constitutional Court since the beginning of the year, revised maintenance employ legal, the question is, how long ...

Care maintenance?

The idea: Divorced should safeguard their own livelihood

The basic idea of reform: children and adults are increasingly bear personal responsibility for their maintenance. Already in the run-up to the concern was expressed that this self-responsibility are often no longer could, as an independent effort to government support. A practiced for decades, legally secured roll without sharing transitional arrangement repeal, seemed to many experts hard transition.

The Case:

A 36-year-old woman, a mother of two sons aged 16 and seven years, has constitutional complaint against since the beginning of the year changed maintenance law prescribed. Background: It is, after 17 years of marriage, divorced in a few weeks.

She works in a part-time job and will be under the new law, no maintenance. Her husband would have only maintenance for the sons pay, as a general right to alimony is only when the children were younger than three years old.

According to the rules in force at the end of 2007 would have their per month left nearly 400 EUR maintenance supervisor authorized. The lawyer of the complainant sees this as a serious disadvantage.

Children's basic right to parental care violated?

If mothers a full-time job would have to accept because they have no right to maintenance, it violates the fundamental rights of the child to parental care, her attorney leads to the field. The new maintenance law protect the financial interests of men, but not the well-being of children.

Divorcees-disadvantage: No tax deductible maintenance

The new legal situation was also another heavy burden of divorcees. Under the old law could maintenance payments to divorced spouses from tax deductible. It is now no longer possible. Also amicable payers will be punished.

No legal aid?

The prosecutor Eckhard Emmericher Benkelberg, already often before the constitutional court and may have been drawn to the enforcement of rights of unmarried mothers before BGH complained, at the same time as the constitutional complaint also at the Higher Regional Court in Duesseldorf appeal: His client was with a view to the new legal situation No legal aid is granted. It looks as if a legal long-distance runner in the works. The proceedings at the Constitutional Court is under the ref. 1 BvR 345/08 pending.

For more information on our top theme "Maintenance Law Reform".

And many thanks to the NEWSTATESMAN, for publishing these topics, which seem to be hidden in the majority of newspapers and television !

Dont we live in 2008, a democratic society? Should we not all have access to such important news regarding major society changes across the world ?

FFreeman
18 March 2008 at 17:25

Look Guys. Most of us now know what divorce is like. Just take it on the chin like me and DONT be so stupid in future. To those suffering with Child Issues; my heartfelt sympathies - its a f###in disgrace! To the ladies out there thinking this is right... have a thought for the many decent females out there resigned to the prospect of never finding a decent partner because of the rightful fear he feels about commitment. Well done feminists and legal incompetents. You have destroyed our Culture along with our families.

CLJ
14 May 2008 at 16:08

It's not as simple as this story implies. In contrast to the high-profile headlines, some recent research showed that on average marital splits were associated with sharp short-term declines in income for separating wives and children. For men, incomes the year after a divorce were found to rise by about a third on average.

Between 1998 and 2004, the average drop in income for mothers the year after the split was 12 per cent - at least an improvement from 1991-1997 when the average was a 30 per cent fall. Incomes of women with children did recover in the years after a split, particularly for those taking a job or a new partner, but five years after a split, their incomes were still about 10 per cent below pre-split levels on average.

see: Jenkins (2008) Marital splits and income changes over the longer term

http://www.iser.essex.ac.uk/pubs/workpaps/pdf/2008-07.pdf

supportforchange
18 August 2008 at 10:43

The argument for equality does not add up. For example; A man lives with his mother for ten years after leaving full time education. She looks after him in all the normal mothering ways ie cooking, cleaning, ironing etc. During this period he builds a successful business and then decides to leave the home, for whetever reason. Should the mother then be entitled to a good portion of his wealth? I suspect most people would think no. But it seems to me, she should if you follow the argument of the those that support the current divorce law in this country.

supportforchange Aug 2008

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